Teaching your children how to cook is a valuable life skill that empowers them to become self-sufficient and make healthier food choices. It’s a great way to spend quality time together while fostering independence. Make it a fun experience by letting them choose ingredients and experiment in the kitchen.
My second son King Aaron made a big pot of stew for our family yesterday. We all enjoyed a great dinner at home courtesy of my 15-year-old son and our fridge and freezer is stocked with stew that will last us for over a week!!
Start it early and simple
I taught my kings every life skill I know, like cooking, cleaning, doing dishes and doing laundry and I thank God that I am now happily reaping good fruits. On top of all these I give my kings additional manly domestic chores like taking out the trash and let them lift all the heavy things for me because men are built stronger. Even if I see any bug, I scream for them, and they come running to help me kill it 😃🥰.
My kings and I also talk about anything and everything routinely including how they are doing in School, their feelings, sex, and anything they wants to talk about. Every month, I try to make out time to talk to each child individually. Sometimes we go out to eat, other times, I just call them to the living room or sit and eat with only one child on the dining table.
Be Patient and Consistent
King Aaron now cooks delicious assorted breakfasts like French Toast, omelets, and Pancakes and other foods for us on the weekends. He has already learned how to cook Nigerian stews and learning how to cook Nigerian soups now. The same king Aaron that cleans our all-white living room to leave it spotless and does all our laundry in addition to cleaning his room and 3 toilets in our home.
Be Spontaneous
We cook soup only a few times a year, and when we do, we all like Okra Soup and we cook it together, king Aaron does all the prep. He will wash and cook the meat, cut all the Okra and cook the soup while I gave him instructions. Hearing my 15-year-old American born teenager say “mommy soup is ready or your pounded yam is ready” gives me unspeakable joy.
I have seen that some men are greatly rich, and even billionaires and yet they are great loving husbands and hands on fathers. This is the type of men I desire for my kings to be. You too can raise these types of men if you are blessed to have a son. Follow my raisin-kings strategy. My kings cook, clean, and do all the chores in our home. They also have routine lectures and discussions on how to love and communicate and be Godly, honest and caring.
We talk about dating, sex, and any and every life issue. Whenever an issue comes to my mind or comes up here on Facebook, I discuss it with them to ensure they have the right mindset. No topic is out of bounds in our raising King Sessions. This week we will talk about equality between men and women and what it means to each of us.
We did not start today. Even if your boys are young. Give them chores. From 7 years old, they can do dishes, start learning to fold clothes, cook noodles, start learning to chop veggies, and whisk eggs, sweep the home and other light chores. 7 is also a good age to start sex education by letting them know the risks around and that nobody can touch them in certain body parts. As the old saying goes, teach a child the way they should go and when they grow, they will never depart from it!
As we all strive to raise this type of sons, please let us also stop accepting poor excuses of men. If a man beats you, leave him, he does not deserve a wife or girlfriend and can kill you. Same for a woman who beats you as a man. If he does not show you love with actions and claim he loves you, please leave him, he is a liar. Again, same for a woman.
Advice For Parents
Love is ACTION not mere words. Perfection does not exist and I’m not telling you a man or a woman should be perfect. King Aaron still makes lot of mistakes and so do I, we all do as humans, but mistakes are human errors, not calculated actions to abuse or use a person you claim to love, those are the character of a terrible human being and we both men n women should know the difference.
Great men and women abound and you cannot attract them if you keep holding onto poor excuses of men & women. Also, by holding onto a bad man, or a bad woman, you are exposing your children to these poor examples of a what a man or woman should be. A man should be a loving provider, protector, and a good influence in the lives of those they love. Men are good. Good men exists and king Aaron will be one of them by God’s Grace.
I love my baby and I’m proud of the boy he is and the man he will becoming😍🤗💙.